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18 Mar

The fact of the matter is most people spend very little time researching and getting to know the other person before they start dating, they just jump into the relationship. They have fears of unwanted pregnancy, date rape, drug use, physical abuse, or simply having their children get a needless and unnecessary broken heart.

Carolyn commented she first had to try and figure out why her parents didn’t like her boyfriend.

If there are no extenuating circumstances like, “Mom, he needs to stay here until his educational Visa comes through,” then telling the ‘rents together is ideal. Maybe he’s older or of a different religion or from another background.

But it’s entirely different when, for some reason, you discover When you discover your parents strongly disapprove of your bf/gf, your first inclination will be to pull away from them and continue your dating relationship behind their back. Never secretly date someone your parents don’t want you to date.

Having secrets and lies between you and your parents ruins trust and causes needless stress and drama which will affect your self-esteem, grades, and even your other friends.

Parents are not big on surprises where your romantic life is concerned. Showing up with a random, unexpected guy has more potential for failure than success. Remember, these people used to change your diapers. A great alternative is telling them that he’ll drop by to spend a short time on his way to somewhere. An hour or two at most is a safe amount of time for a first visit.

Be polite without freaking out if they have a zillion questions. Family dinners are a common first time meeting moment but can be very stressful.